“I was holding on for dear life, but dear life was waiting for me to let go.”
Who can relate to this quote?
I certainly can. At least twice in my life, I’ve felt as though I was gripping the edge of a life that was already gone.
And it makes sense. When we can’t see the future, the fear of the unknown can take over.
Our brains prefer to keep us ‘safe,’ in what is familiar, even when it’s a relationship that is draining us, a job that is making us miserable, even a habit that is slowly making us sick.
And we stay, hanging.
But… sometimes life nudges us.
When in the middle
There was a season when everything I had built disappeared almost at once.
The relationship ended. My son left home. I lost my job.
I knew there was no going back.
But there was no clear way forward either.
Just like the illustration above, I was hanging. Grieving the past and unable to see what was ahead.
However, we don’t have to wait for life to force us into this ‘middle’ space. We can choose it.
But… even when the choice is ours, fear can keep us suspended. Stuck.
How can we get unstuck? How can we let go?
Moving beyond middle
Recently, I listened to a conversation between Myron Golden and Dr. Benjamin Hardy talking about working from your future self to create your present.
I was fascinated with their conversation because it gave me greater clarity and confirmation.
Myron Golden spoke about the power of choosing the ‘joyful anticipation’ of the outcome desired, rather than allowing doubt and powerlessness to consume our attention.
This reminded me of something Dr. Joe Dispenza often teaches: where attention goes, energy follows. If you spend your days focused on what you fear losing, you leave no room to see what is possible.
But..
What stayed with me was what Dr. Benjamin Hardy explained. Your future self is something you use right now to shape your decisions, your direction, your daily choices.
“Your future is a tool.”
That got me wondering:
What is the future I want to build?
Are the choices I make today contributing to the woman I desire to be in my future?
And what would I need to release in order to move toward her?
I’m finally beginning to understand that I don’t need to have all the clarity before I decide. Sometimes the decision comes first, and the clarity grows as I begin moving toward it.
This is something I’m working on now as the Future Self-Portrait program is taking shape.
Soon, I will create my own portrait, which will give me the steps to guide other women in creating a clear visual expression of who they are becoming.
Not because a portrait can guarantee what the future will bring.
But because it is easier to move toward a future when we can begin to see it.
So, what decision are you waiting to feel ready for? What if you made it today instead? Let clarity follow.